“We learn in friendship to look with the eyes of another person, to listen with her ears, and to feel with her heart.” - Alfred Adler
One of the most foundational human experiences is our desire to relate to one another. Humans strive for connection - from birth we seek attachment to those closest around us, and the pursuit of belonging can feel as if it defines our very existence at times. We may seek the love of others, we may seek the love of ourselves, we may not know what we seek but experience a deep craving to connect in a way we feel we never have, or fear we never will.
Our personal relationships, be they romantic, professional, collegial, or platonic, are an essential part of what it means to be human. Sometimes though, we may feel as if our relationships are not working out the way we hope they will, or we struggle to communicate with those around us and do not feel as if we are truly heard. We may find ourselves repeatedly in unfulfilling relationships, with negative or exhausting patterns that we are unsure of how to change or break.
Often, these feelings stem from a place deep within, and have lived inside us for a very long time. By working together using a variety of interventions from narrative therapy and attachment theory, we can work together to understand your personal background with relationships and communication. By understanding our roots, we can better learn how to separate our patterns and behaviours from ourselves, and move forward to a future filled with the types of positive relationships we so deeply desire. This includes the most important one, the relationship you have with yourself. If you would like a deeper awareness of your connection to yourself and others, book a consultation to learn more.